These are the kinds of thing that a person says who I believe has never tried to lose weight. Even if they say that they have dieted many times, I simply don’t believe they have ever tried to diet with the necessary desire and conviction.
Pathetic excuses are the kinds that are wrong on every level.
Apart from being illogical or unprovable, they don’t even pass the sniff test to someone who is even half listening.
The only type of person that can get away with this, is a small child. By making a pathetic excuse they are showing that they don’t know any better. If a child tells you that someone MADE them eat the chocolate cake, or that the dog turned on the TV before the homework is finished, they are not necessarily trying to be deceitful. They are unlikely to be insulting your intelligence or taking you for a fool.
As part of growing up it takes time for a child to distinguish reality from fantasy. It takes time for the brain to develop powers of logical reasoning, a moral compass and problem solving abilities. Much of what a child is told is in story form, the cartoons that they watch aren’t true on a literal level. Superman doesn’t really fly; animals don’t really talk.
So, moving on to adults… Many adults say false or even ridiculous statements all the time. They often continue unheeded because others are embarrassed for them, or too scared to correct them. Maybe some are sick of telling them when they don’t listen.
From the guy down the pub who tells you that he almost got picked for a premier league football team… To the old grumpy neighbor who tells you that the world was perfect when they were young, and it’s all the younger generations fault.
These pathetic excuses range from the harmless…
Example: I would have more self-esteem but everyone preferred my sister.
To the harmful…
Example: I would have been more successful but my business partner stole my idea, I’m planning to destroy him.
Anyway. Back to weight loss.
Most excuses seem harmless in that most people will ignore you or simply privately chuckle at your expense
These pathetic excuses are very harmful to your health. If your development and self-awareness are at the “pathetic excuse” stage of growth, then you have much work to do.
Now, as an adult you would never say that the dog made you do it, or that you didn’t eat the chocolate cake if you get caught with chocolate all around your mouth. The reason for this is that you started to think on a deeper level. You thought about truth and logic.
You need to conduct the same type of examination relating to pathetic excuses regarding your weight.
I will help with a few common ones:
All my family are fat
Imaging substituting the word ‘fat’ for the following: ‘Smelly’, ‘silly’, or ‘children’s party clowns’. Need I go on? You probably remember a time when you wanted to be different to your parents, or your siblings. Unless all your family are clones.
I enjoy the taste of chocolate, chips, pizza etc
So does everybody! You are probably addicted to sugar, caffeine, artificial additives and white carbs. NEWSFLASH! Slim and sexy people also eat cake or burgers! Why not try eating two slices of pizza instead of a whole one? Buy a small chocolate bar in your weekly shop instead of a year’s supply of family sized ones. What types of food that taste good for you is really irrelevant?
I have tried to diet and failed
Apart from the obvious conclusion that you didn’t really try properly, or maybe you tried a bad diet, if doesn’t mean that you should give up!
If you are fat all your life and only face up to reality at age 70, then do the necessary research, education, soul searching and self-analysis. Then continue to slim down to your ideal weight. I bet that you would cry with joy, and the achievement will be one of the most significant in your whole life. I feel moved emotionally as I write this thinking about that 70-year-old that never gave up, that never quit and finally achieved one of their lifelong goals.
Healthy food is expensive
Did you ever compare the price of vegetables with processed microwave ready meals? Have you researched the price of meat with the price of delivery pizza? How about the cost of dried beans in relation to cakes and ice cream? Didn’t think so.
You can find healthy food on a low budget. It is true that junk food manufacturers make it easy for you to give yourself diabetes or a heart attack, but does that mean that you should lie back and not even try to make an effort for your health?
I’m too busy to eat healthily
Again, many fast food restaurants and snack manufacturers make it easy for you to abuse yourself. So, do cigarette manufacturers. Are you just going to give in without any effort? You could make a weeks’ worth of bean salad, or prepare enough vegetables for a few days in advance. How long does it take to peel a banana or wash an apple?
Even if gorging on junk food somehow managed to make you less busy, its not worth it
Back in reality you will find that losing weight will give you better sleep, mental clarity and energy levels. You will easily make up any extra time that it takes by eating healthy food. If you are still having trouble with your time management try cutting back on the reality TV, or soap operas and series.
I need a treat to cheer myself up or reward myself.
These are almost too silly to include. So, you are sad, probably because of your unhealthy body, low energy, health problems, low self-esteem, strangers laughing at your ass etc…
I know! Why don’t you binge on junk food! Pour fuel onto the fire! You deserve a treat? How about treating yourself with obesity and an early death. (Yes, I am being sarcastic.)
I always binge when I’m drunk and the next day during a hangover I pig out.
So, you are an alcoholic as well? Good excuse… That is settled then.
All my friends and family only eat junk food.
As I said before, try substituting the words “junk food” for other negative or silly attributes. Try saying that all of your friends or family prefer dressing in chicken costumes.
You do not have to do the same thing as other people. You have a choice to make, either you spend time with these people in different ways. You get a grip. These people aren’t forcing you to eat junk. Many restaurants have healthy options; you could eat smallder portions.
It is unlikely that these trips are the sole cause of your weight. Even if you continue with these social get togethers but eat healthily at all other times, you will lose weight.
The real problem is YOUR attitude and dominant thoughts, not theirs
I will start my diet after the New Year, so I will have more reason
You already have a ton of reasons to improve your life right now. This is simply mental laziness and procrastination. Why not lose weight now and really have something to celebrate on New Year’s Eve!
Imagine the feeling of positivity, the extra strength and confidence in knowing that you have solved a major problem in your life! You might even find someone sexy to give you a News Year’s Eve kiss this year!
As a kid I always got given large portions and got forced to finish it. I’m used to that, it’s the way I am.
Doomed then…. Forever. I mean how could you ever change a childhood habit? (For the slow readers I’m being sarcastic.) Do you really do ALL the things that your parents forced you to as a child? REALLY? Exactly.
The supermarkets make it hard by doing special offers on the junk food.
Of course they do! There is a much higher mark up on processed food full of chemicals and little nutrients. They want you to eat 5000 calories a day of food that you are addicted to and with products with high profit margins. The supermarket wants to maximize profits, they also supply the demand from people like you. You are encouraging them! Shame on you!
My partner likes me fat.
- They are probably lying to make you feel better, they are an enabler.
- Even if in the unlikely event that it was true, is it worth the negative health, emotional and social pain? Do they really love you if they want to put you through this misery?
A while ago I discovered a website devoted to ‘feeders’ This is where a partner deliberately encourages or forces the other partner to put on weight.
The reasons could be related to not wanting anyone else to find the fatty attractive. Some feeders are sadists who wanted to control another person and humiliate them. If you are interested you will have to google this on your own. I can’t bear to look at the pictures again.
I certainly don’t think that encouraging another person to be morbidly obese has anything to do with true love!
Again, this isn’t an exclusive list of pathetic excuses. Some of you will subjectively argue the differences between a pathetic excuse, a self-limiting belief, a self-fulfilling belief or a dis-empowering or empowering belief.
I agree that for different people, each mental obstacle might be in a different category. Just as different people will suffer from a different combination of delusions.
As a self-exploration exercise, get separate pieces of paper and write down lists and brief explanations of these phenomena on a personal level.
A pathetic excuse is extremely illogical and indefensible.
A self-limiting belief is a misconception. Something that you believe or were told but you hadn’t examined fully. Such as the power of your genetics or your metabolism.
Dis-empowering beliefs are phrases, sayings, or jokes that soften harsh facts. They are subtle and can make fatness more palatable, and slimness bad in some way.
Get writing, and write as many examples as possible. Purge the junk thoughts! Free your mind. Pull out the weeds, ready to plant nurturing fruit.