WEIGH YOURSELF EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.
Most people put on weight gradually, without really noticing. As they replace clothes over time the clothes tend to get a bit bigger. Manufacturers vary tremendously in their sizing.
I think that they do this cleverly so that people can fool themselves
Have you ever tried on some jeans that were labeled a size smaller than the ones you normally wear? If you are a woman and a size 12, have you ever tried on a size 10 and had a massive ego boost?
Oh, the joy, the sense of achievement.
I have experienced a similar situation in reverse. I remember being a size 40-inch waist, seeing some jeans that I liked and after finding that they were too small to button, couldn’t bear buying the 42”. The fact that I needed the 42” was like a reality check and I resolved not to buy the 42” but to diet. (The resolve didn’t last more than a day but the store didn’t get my business).
Manufacturers know that fat people are in denial and if they label the jeans with the 42” waist as a 40” or even a 38” then they will sell more jeans as we kid ourselves and buy into the fantasy that we have lost weight.
It is only when we eventually get on the scales after months or even years of denial, that we get a shock.
My aim is never to get shocked after getting on the scales… Ever again!
Do you think that weighing yourself every day is too obsessive? Did one of your diet books or diet gurus tell you not to? How did that work out for you? Back to square one?
Think of all our ‘vanity’ routines.
– Cutting, brushing and styling hair.
– Manicure and pedicure.
– Make-up regimes.
– Checking yourself in the mirror.
– Adjusting and straightening your tie.
– Checking for bad breath.
– Trying on different clothes and shoes combinations in the mirror.
– Plucking your eyebrows.
How long does it take to jump on the scales?
This should be the most important routine of your day.
Monitoring your weight is far more important than checking your hair
What difference does it make whether your cuff-links match your watch, or your handbag matches your shoes?
What difference does it make if your tie is fashioned into a perfect “Half Windsor” if it is draped over a large belly?
Maybe it is time to keep an eye on reality. Keep an eye on the most important aspect of your life… Your ability to continue it. Whatever your contribution to the world. Whether you are completely happy at work, with your friends and family, with your hobbies and interests… You can’t do it if you are dead.
The number one killer in the western world is heart disease. Not to mention the multitude of sicknesses related to obesity. By not watching your weight you are living with a cloud over your head wherever you go, whatever you do.
You also can’t enjoy life if you feel embarrassed and ashamed of your body and what it represents.
‘Fat and lazy’
‘Fat and ugly’
These are phrases and associations that are real. However, upset you might feel if someone says these words, the reality is there whether the words are spoken or not.
Truth is like an undercurrent in life that we cannot escape from. Often the truth is ‘unspeakable’ but it is always present. Yes, people do cringe inwardly when they see a fat person approaching to take a seat next to them in an airplane. Yes, people do feel a bit sick or disgusted if they see a fat person about to enter the swimming pool.
I don’t mean to offend anyone. The truth might hurt; you might even stop reading these posts and write me a bad review.
I bet that when you are ready to face reality, when you are ready to change your life…
…You might come back to these posts and read it in their entirety.
Lets face it, you have probably tried the false positivity approach. Maybe you have spent hours reciting affirmations to yourself in the mirror. You have tried the diet clubs where everyone is being ever so supportive and positive. You have certainly tried the denial / avoidance approach.
Why not try facing up to reality? Have you tried that yet?
If you think that you simply have big bones or are only a little overweight, then try taking some pictures of yourself in underwear and ask people’s opinions? Send them to me I will be honest with you!
Hmmm didn’t think so.
Facing reality is the beginning of real change. It is a firm foundation for your efforts that you can really build on.
Weight loss starts in the mind; you can start thinking like a fit and healthy person instead of a fatty in denial.
Clothing manufacturers won’t help you, junk food manufacturers won’t help you, they will lead you the wrong way.
Your family and friends are likely to perpetuate the denial by saying the right things to make you feel better
The people close to you are likely to encourage you to stay fat especially if they are also fat.
Fat family and friends will encourage you to commit ‘food crimes’ with them.
I can help you a bit. My main hope for this book is to help people.
The truth is that as with everything in life you must take responsibility and do it for yourself. The government isn’t going to make you thin, or the diet and fitness guru. It is only you, your mind, and the choices that you make.
Make the decision to weigh yourself every day, for the rest of your life. It won’t take much time, it won’t hurt anything except your ego, the ego that got you into this mess!