OK ready? Write down what you think your waist measurement is. Next, write down the waist measurement on the labels of your clothes.
Now, measure the actual waistbands of your clothes. Finally, measure your actual waistline. That is taken from a point near your navel (belly button). Yes, if you are a guy who has his belly hanging out and builders bum showing then your jeans are not around your waist. This looks good only if you are a muscular rapper or a skinny teenager… That is also debatable!
What you are likely to find is that the waist measurements in your mind, and the clothes labels, are complete lies!
Lies created by the clothes manufacturer so that you can fool yourself!
Fool yourself you did.
You need to get back to reality. The first time I tried this exercise, my ego, and my jeans labels said 38-40” … my tape measure said 44”.
Wow what a fatty!
I truly didn’t know. I was deluding myself. Everyone else could see my butt crack when I bent over or my ‘man boobs’, but I was kidding myself that I was only a little bit overweight.
What a fool!
I even thought that I had a ‘naturally chubby face’ whatever that was supposed to mean.
Do you think that it is “only natural” to put on weight as you get older? It’s another cause and effect mistake. When you were young, maybe you were active, you might have been involved in sports at school, either because you enjoyed them, or because you had a “drill instructor” type physical education teacher. Maybe you were constantly mindful of the opposite sex (or the same sex if you are gay).
Raging hormones and thoughts of sex might have helped you make better choices about which foods to eat. Especially if you are female and looked at the sexy models and singers as heroes. Maybe as boys you spent some of your lunch money on other things. Maybe you were a fussy eater who moodily pushed away food at the evening mealtime.
There are many possible reasons why you were thin or thinner as a teenager. What happens when the average person becomes independent, and has their own money? They never must do another cross country run if they don’t want to. They can sit and eat junk food and watch T.V all night if they want. They can really rebel against all that they were previously forced to do.
The average person in their 20’s stops physical exercise altogether. They get a car or a motorbike so they stop walking or riding their bicycle. They eat and drink whatever they like, whatever they can afford. The consequence of this is that through each decade, the average person gains weight and loses muscle mass.
What is the reason? Getting older? Being more greedy and lazy?
Answers on a postcard….
Another form of self-delusion is when we ask people close to us whether we are getting fat. From the classic “does my butt look big in this?” to “hey look! This size 10 fits me, I must be losing weight! Do you think that I am a little thinner?”.
What do you think that your friend or loved one will say? They know you already have a complex about your weight otherwise you wouldn’t have asked in the first place!
Understand that if you tell the truth to a self-deluded insecure fatty, you are likely to get your head bitten off, or must spend a lot of time back peddling and helping to piece a fragile ego back together…
So you tell them what they want to hear, and life goes on…
Do not ask anyone if they think that you look fat. Do not ask if you look like you have lost some weight.
All you need to do is keep track of your weight with some weigh scales, and know what your ideal weight is
That is it. Two things. Everything else is self-delusion and a waste of everyone’s time.
If you focus on the scales and the ideal weight. Eventually you will start to receive REAL compliments or observations. The buzz of this is natural, a reward for your discipline. The spice of life, a real achievement, instead of an insecure person begging for a lie to make themselves feel better.
Again, turn your back on self-delusion and enjoy the reality party. It is a lot more fun.
A final type of self-delusion is where you compare yourself to others.
The article you read about the worlds fattest person who has their house demolished to get to hospital by crane … “Look at them! I can’t understand how they let themselves get into such a state, who is feeding them?” You say self-righteously.
The silly inter family competitions where this year at the Christmas celebration you are thinner than your brother, who was thinner than you last year…. The dieting paid off as you parade your (still fat) ass to everyone in your new designer jeans that you can only just fit into.
Guess what? Both of you are still obese.
The “Biggest loser” reality TV where unfortunate souls embarrass themselves in the gym and jogging around at a snail’s pace. Then the weekly weigh-ins where they display far too much stretch marked flesh.
Your glee and satisfaction knowing that you don’t have a problem at all…
COMPARED TO THEM!
There are many other self-delusions out there.
Most of them involve either lying to yourself or comparing yourself with those that are worse off
Since when was lying OK? Do you tell you kids to tell the truth? Do you get hurt if your partner lies to you? Then don’t lie to yourself, be a good example.
Comparing yourself to others is plain silly. Imagine doing this in any other context.
Imagine being laid off from work but being happy that someone else got laid off AND got run over by a bus on the same day.
By comparing yourself to someone that is worse off you are looking in the wrong direction. You will perpetuate your situation. Model yourself on what you want to become. Not on what you don’t.