I used to think that I had ‘naturally big thighs’. I remember thinking as a small child that I had a big butt. I’m not sure whether anyone told me this or whether I decided it for myself. I expect that there was some childhood verbal abuse involved. (I wasn’t particularly bullied, and I certainly said hurtful things to others as well.)
As a child, you often make connections or decide facts and then hold them in your mind as absolutes
This also happens when adults teach you things. Most of these things are true or accurate. Some things that adults teach you are false, either deliberately or accidentally.
The adult telling you something might have heard the same thing many years ago and never questioned it for themselves. An example is supernatural or superstitious beliefs. Beliefs that one culture might have will seem completely ridiculous to another.
So, as a child I decided that I had a big butt, and ‘naturally large thighs’. When shopping for jeans or trousers I always asked for the baggy or ‘easy fit’ choices. I thought that my shape was as natural as my height.
My waist size at say, 15 years old might have been 36” and because I am tall (Now 6’2”) I decided that 36” waist /30” leg was simply my size, I was big. The main problem was with finding trousers that weren’t too tight around the butt and thighs. I remember resigning myself to the ‘fact’ of my body shape.
Do you do this? Do you think that you are ‘naturally stocky’ or ‘naturally pear shaped’? You are probably fooling yourself. Sorry
Back to when I was 15 years old…. I don’t have records but I know that I was ‘a bit chubby’ or had some ‘puppy fat’ (STILL A PUPPY?) Total weight was probably about 14 stone. I bet that if I had taken notice of my ideal weight, and slimmed down to 11 or 12 stone, then I WOULD NOT HAVE HAD NATURALLY BIG THIGHS ANYMORE!
How do I know? Because of the collection of trousers that I still have from over the years. If I put on a pair of 42” waist jeans or trousers that were a good fit not too long ago, they are enormous. I am wearing trousers that are 36” waist right now.
When I try on a 36” waist in the clothes store, sometimes they are too tight for my butt and thighs, sometimes not. Here is the thing. As I write this, I am about 40 pounds lower than my highest weight, but still about 40 pounds over my ideal weight.
Do I really think that I will still have a big butt or thighs when I get down close to my ideal weight? Of course, not….
As a thought experiment, imagine rebuilding yourself, let’s say you were just a soul in the ‘human factory’, First you go to the racks of skeletons, they are arranged in height order, then some skeletons might be a little ‘stockier’ than others. But not by much…. How often have you known a young person who stops growing at age 15 or 20 years old, then at some point they suddenly fill out? We have all seen this haven’t we. You might be thinking on your own children right now. So, the teenager hits their full height and shoe size, they might have even looked skinny to you, this would have certainly been your opinion if you yourself are fat. Then suddenly the child gets much bigger, the man gets stockier, the girl gets hips. With me so far? OK….
How many of you think that, after reaching full height, this teenager’s skeleton suddenly got bigger? We already agreed that the height and shoe size stopped growing right?
Exactly. The extra weight is muscle and/or fat. Simple
So don’t blame your big bones ever again. It is simply not true and believing these things will subconsciously hobble your weight loss efforts.
The same goes for muscle. Every time I hear that someone is being called ‘stocky’ I see one of 2 things:
- Either someone who does a lot of weight training and has a job or lifestyle that is very physical.
- The person is obese and needs a reality check. The person calling them stocky is simply an enabler.
So, if you are a heavy weight mixed martial artist, a heavy weight boxer, powerlifter or professional body builder then yes, you are probably stocky. Most other people who call themselves stocky are just fat. Get real.
So, we are back in the build-a-human factory, the skeleton might be slightly bigger than others, (but it doesn’t wobble)! The muscles vary, but the baseline for each non-weight trainer is quite similar. (As a reminder, muscles don’t wobble like jelly either!)
Did you ever hear of someone having a ‘big central nervous system?’
How about ‘heavy veins’? No?
A ‘big brain’? Maybe….
I think you know where I am going with this….
How about the organs? Large lungs? Maybe a little. An enlarged heart? Yes, if you are overweight! Heavy skin? Again, yes if you are obese … Yuck ….
The weight difference between people of the same height… If they are not serious weight trainers…. It’s BLUBBER!
Get real. Adjust your thinking. Throw out your false premises, your dis-empowering beliefs, your ego denials, don’t believe your enabler family and friends.
Just lose some weight…… PLEASE!