As children, we start with huge information overload, it takes a long time to start to figure out how the World really works. It would be difficult to question absolutely everything because of the sheer volume of learning. So, the brain creates shortcuts that benefit us. For example, we tend to trust what our parents or teachers tell us without questioning too much.
Another thing that we do is we make connections and file many things away in the mind as self-evident. This speeds up the learning process.
Not everything you know was taught to you. Much of our knowledge comes from simple observation
These observations get ‘filed’ as facts, although the reality may not be as simple.
For example, I remember as a child, categorizing different classmates. There might be the brainy one; The spotty one; the sporty one; the tall one; the short one; the thin one; the fat one and so on. Of course, each child was in more than one category. For example, I was the bright underachiever who was ‘chubby’, and usually the ‘class clown’.
The specific categorization isn’t important; it is the process of categorization that I am highlighting. This is part of the way we organize our minds, and our view of the World. It helps to create pigeon holes and groups, but this process has negative side effects.
In my case I wished that I was the sporty one, or the slim one, but at the same time I knew that it could have been worse. I could have been the fat one. Or the fat and stupid one. At least I was fairly smart, and only had some ‘puppy fat’ that I hoped would go away as I grew up.
So by default, the weight problem became part of my identity. Psychologists know that if you label a child a certain way, you will increase the chance of it holding true over the long term.
We can also hold ourselves back in the same way.
It is easy to see a weight problem as a fact, or part of our identity
As a child we can make the mistake of seeing obesity in a similar way to eye color or height. Just genetic, an accident of birth, or just the way life is.
This is the attitude of someone who has an external locus of control. Studies have shown that some people go through life without direction, if bad things happen it is someone else’s fault. They think that the government should look after them, they buy lottery tickets thinking that wealth is a game of luck.
Successful people take responsibility for themselves, they know that the way that they think and act can have a huge effect all parts of their life.
As a child, it is difficult to feel in control, with parents, teachers and older children controlling you. As a child many things are off limits. As an adult however, part of truly growing up is understanding the difference in being reactive and helpless, or proactive and capable of real change.
Many fat people haven’t completely grown up. They have not mastered self-discipline or rational thinking. If you think that you are fat because of genetics, bad habits from your parents, or even the evil food manufacturers that make unhealthy food so tempting…
Here is a reality check…
It is time for you to grow up! It doesn’t matter if you are 20 years old or 70 years old.
Take response ability (the ability to respond in the way you choose to) for your own life
You are the one making the bad decisions. You have the choice to make better ones.
It took me far to long too realize this myself, if we invent time travel at some time in the future I will send a copy of this post (and others) back to myself at the age of around 12.
I believe that every fat person who really changes, who loses the excess weight for the long term, has also changed their identity. Just like the middle-aged person who cringes at their own hippie or punk photos of themselves as a teenager.
The way to achieve this is in a highly proactive way
Don’t approach the problem with a set of rules to follow. Find out how many different ways you can understand yourself better. Think of how many ways you can change your habits or substitute your food and activities to completely change.
Another important thing to remember is that when you blame external forces for your problems, you limit your capability to improve. If it’s your ‘genes’, or because you ‘have an addictive personality’, then how can you change? If it seems irrevocable.
It is not. I’m not sure that you could be the president or prime minister if you wanted it enough…..but I am sure you could slim down to your ideal weight!
- Are Chemicals making you fat?
All drugs have side-effects. Chemical pollution in the body causes side-effects. If I were to research, then try to write a list of potential body pollutants, it would be huge. The list would be full of complicated words and chemistry. We would have a full-time job trying to avoid all chemicals and most likely become neurotic or obsessive-compulsive.
Since stress is as dangerous to our health as chemicals are, it is probably best to stick to a few commonsense practices to eliminate the problem as much as possible. Chemicals build up in our bodies, in our fat cells, brain, liver and other parts of the body. So, the first step is to stop our bodies being overloaded.
In many ways, we are guinea pigs, in that it is only in recent times that the human body has been subjected to such an onslaught of chemical attack. Let’s assume that most or all of these pollutants interfere with our bodies natural systems and mechanisms. Under that assumption we can reduce or eliminate additional pollution while our body fights to regain balance.
What we drink
Did you know that drinking water in most countries is unsafe?
In developing countries, there are risks of bacterial, parasitic and viral infection.
In developed countries, we find fluoride that is an industrial chemical linked to osteoporosis and Alzheimer’s amongst other illnesses. Chlorine is one of the deadliest poisons known to man and drinking it causes allergies and other immune system issues. Because of recycling in cities, you will be drinking estrogen from birth control pill users urine, amongst other prescribed medicines and chemicals.
- Limiting our time in the bath or shower (our skin is our bodies largest organ and absorbs what we put on it).
- Buying a quality filtration system for drinking.
- Using filtered or distilled water even for hot drinks and for cooking.
What we eat
This one is fairly simple.
- Always try to choose grass-fed organic beef or meat from other naturally living organically fed animals. Most meat has residues of growth hormones, antibiotics, chlorine, and chemical color enhancer. Most animals and farmed fish are fed now on pellet feed containing genetically modified soy protein. We keep seeing horror stories about GMO ‘frankenstein food’. Again, let’s try not to be a human guinea pig.
- Never eat factory processed food if possible. Processed food is robbed of nutrients, full of salt, sugar, monosodium glutamate, aspartame, and high fructose corn syrup; not to mention stabilizers, anti-caking agents, artificial color and flavorings.
- Cook your own food using real ingredients, vegetables, fruits, herbs spices, rather than ready made sauces or ‘just add water’ powder concoctions.
- Try to avoid canned food, plastic containers and drink bottles. A recent study has shown that children with high levels of Bisphenol-A were twice as likely to be obese than ones with low levels. Bisphenol-A is released from the plastic used to make baby milk bottles and from the inside seal of canned food. It dissolves and then builds up in our bodies causing side effects.
What we breathe
When we breathe, chemical pollutants are absorbed into our bloodstream and sent around the body. These pollutants build up in our system.
- Buy air purifiers for bedrooms so that you can breathe clean air while you sleep. These filters remove pollution from traffic and household pollutants, such as different aerosol sprays we use. Air purifiers also filter mould spores, dust mite eggs and pet allergens.
- Don’t walk around outside during the hours of peak traffic congestion. Try to avoid driving or living nearby as well, if possible. The smallest particles find their way into your car and house even with windows closed.
- Try to spend as much time outdoors as possible, whilst avoiding pollution. You will breathe natural air whilst getting some natural light and sunshine that also has huge health benefits.
What we rub on our skin
Most cosmetics, deodorants, soaps and shampoos are absolutely loaded with chemicals. I have read many books and articles on this that have caused me great alarm. Did you know that antiperspirants contain aluminum compounds that are extremely toxic? Then we rub them into our skin right near or lymph nodes under our arms. The answer is to actively seek out organic alternatives to anything that we put on our skin and gets absorbed.
What we use in the home.
- Did you know that nonstick coating is toxic? That it gets released during cooking? Did you know that the chemicals that are used to make furniture fire retardant are also very dangerous and get released into the air that you breathe?
- Did you know that microwave ovens alter the structure of our food? Did you know that microwaves kill all enzymes on the food rendering it biologically inactive? Did you know that if you microwave a glass of water then try to grow any kind of plant seed in that water, the seed will not germinate? Throw your microwave away!
I hope that I have reminded you of things that you are aware of, but have not acted upon. Anyhow, if this is the first time you are hearing this type of thing then you really need to do further research. I will recommend a book at the end of these line of posts for further reading, so that you can do some research.
It will be impossible to cut out chemical contamination entirely, but halving it should be easy.
As a rule of thumb, if we stick to things that our grandparents, or great grandparents would have done then we will be almost there
Fifty years ago we wouldn’t have bought a factory produced ready meal then stuck it in the microwave or heated it in a nonstick pan.
By limiting the amount of chemical pollutants in the body we will increase our overall health, energy levels and our bodies will function better. Our immune systems will work with our digestive systems so that food is digested better, and bacterial or fungal imbalances will not develop.
I am not a doctor or scientist, the information here is correct to the best of my knowledge. However, cutting out or reducing the intake of white carbohydrates will have a much larger affect than reducing your chemical load.
In the interest of holistic growth and improvement both are important. Also, if you increase your general sense of well-being it will be easier to follow other practices that involve discipline and self-control.