My previously published fat loss book on Amazon has been taken down, and will be published page by page here on my blog. There are a number of reasons that I’ll go into at a future time. For now, this is the introduction to the book… (Written in the present tense… In the past… If that makes sense and is OK for you? You’ll get used to it…)
I never planned to write a book
Even after starting to write it, I didn’t realize that I would eventually create a whole book! I have recently gone through a period of introspection, of personal reinvention. During this time I’ve become obsessed with learning.
At school, I did what was necessary to pass exams but often felt that what I was learning was irrelevant. I thought that these facts, names and dates would be completely useless to my life after exams were finished. After leaving the education system I simply focused on work and leisure. In many ways I stopped learning, certainly when it came to important topics.
Until recently, I have been either overweight or obese for as long as I can remember. I still have photos of myself as a small child where I can see that I was at an ideal weight. I’m not sure exactly when I put on the extra weight but it was somewhere between 8 and 12 years old. Since then I have dieted, and exercised on and off. At one stage I was a vegetarian for around 5 years, then vegan for a year or so. I have tried periods of no alcohol, no caffeine, intensive exercise and periods of walking everywhere, (even walking 4 or 5 hours per day).
I have had a ‘ceiling’ of 260 pounds and a ‘floor’ of 220 pounds. My ideal weight is around 170 – 190 pounds. So even after a period of weight loss I was still very overweight.
This weight fluctuation within the 40 pound range had been going on for 25+ years.
Self help books helped me write my fat loss book
I have recently read many books on dieting, exercise and self-help. I read at least 1 book per week and I have been doing so for a few years now. I have finally made some breakthroughs. I realize now the REAL reasons for my weight problems. Fighting through difficult gym routines on a long term basis is hard to sustain. Being “on a diet” where you feel intense cravings all the time is miserable. Long-term success with over-exercise or dieting is statistically unlikely.
I have realized that we tend to ‘fight the flab’ instead of changing the way we think. The real reasons for being fat are often different to the ones that we fools ourselves with. If you are overweight or obese then I guarantee that you will have self-limiting beliefs, and self-fulfilling failure mechanisms. You are likely to have accepted facts and opinions that are not true. The thoughts that you have, and the false beliefs cause you to fail often.
It is only after identifying the false beliefs or opinions, then letting them dissolve away, that you can move in the right direction.
I have discovered diets that work for short-term results, but I have never been able to follow them to fruition. I have discovered that many of the things that I thought were true, were false. I have discovered that I had many self-sabotaging opinions or beliefs that have kept me from becoming the person that I was destined to be.
This book got created as a side project during my fat loss journey. I decided to take the task of losing weight seriously. It became my number one goal, my passion. During this period I started to research intensively, through physical books, and through the internet.
I did this whilst learning a lot about myself and the reasons why I had always failed to lose weight. While I was learning and changing my life, I kept a journal, I started writing everything down.
I studied the problem and explored it in a way that I rarely studied any topic at school. I realize that the most important wisdom and truth in life is eternal and with the help of some of the greatest people in history we can find the answers to almost everything.
You might think that these are strange words to be reading in a fat loss book. I have discovered that you can’t lose weight and keep it off simply by exercising more, or avoiding junk food. It is about becoming a different person, and thinking in different ways.
The main difference between a rich person and a poor person
Is not the amount of money they have. It is about how they think. A rich person can lose their fortune and then make it again. A poor person will stay poor as long as they think like a poor person.
The same applies to the main difference between a fat person and a slim person. The difference is not in the weight measurement. The weight is a symptom, the evidence of dominant thoughts and actions.
My weight loss journey involved realizing which thoughts were false. Which thoughts are justifications or self-denial? Which thoughts are simply not true and got stuck in my head after hearing them from someone else who was in denial?
Reality is your friend. How can you see a problem, and solve it if you aren’t looking at reality?
I have lost weight effortlessly, I rarely feel hungry often the choice to eat is based on looking at my watch and realizing that I haven’t eaten for a few hours. I used to be hungry and craving food ALL the time. I would eat a 3 course meal then have second helping of dessert.
Not any more. There is no fight, no battle. No binging, no guilt. I still occasionally eat cakes, chocolate or potato chips. I just control myself more, and usually make rational decisions. I don’t feel like I am using willpower. It is effortless. Read on and find out why…